What If I Don’t Know What’s Wrong?
Sometimes one of the hardest parts of asking for help is feeling as though you need to explain exactly what is wrong before you’re allowed to say you’re struggling.
But you don’t.
You might not have a name for what you’re experiencing. You might not know whether it’s anxiety, stress, burnout, depression or simply the result of carrying too much for too long.
Sometimes all you know is:
“I don’t feel like myself.”
And that is enough to start a conversation.
I think this is particularly important for men because there can be pressure to understand the problem, find a solution and sort it out before involving anyone else. But emotions don't always arrive neatly labelled, and you don't need to diagnose yourself before asking for support.
You can simply say:
“Things feel harder at the moment.”
“I’m struggling more than people realise.”
“I don’t really know what’s wrong.”
“I think I need some support.”
Those are complete sentences. You don't need to follow them with a perfect explanation.
Sometimes understanding comes after we begin talking.
You don't need to wait for a diagnosis, a crisis or a breaking point before deciding that something needs attention.
If something doesn't feel right, start exactly where you are.
You can work out the rest with someone alongside you.
With love,
Maggie
Space to Breathe Therapy
