Circles of caregiving pressure
Circles of caregiving pressure is a reflective coaching resource designed to help people separate what they can act on, what they may be able to influence, and what sits outside their direct control. This can reduce mental overload and support a clearer next step.
Circle of control
· My own basic needs
· Accepting “good enough”
· One boundary today
Circle of influence
· Sharing responsibilities
· Asking for practical help
· Planning respite
Circle of concerns
· Another person’s condition
· Service waiting times
· Family opinions
Coaching tips
· Begin with the smallest item inside the circle of control.
· Use the influence circle for requests, conversations and planning—not guarantees.
· Acknowledge concerns without spending all available energy trying to control them.
· Move an item between circles if new information changes what is possible.
· Return to basic needs and professional support when overwhelm remains high.
Reflection questions
What am I trying to control that is not mine to control? What is one action available to me today? Who or what could increase my influence safely?
Important note
This resource supports reflection and coaching. It does not mean difficult circumstances should simply be accepted, and it does not replace safeguarding, advocacy, medical care or crisis support where these are needed.
Until next time, give yourself space to breathe.
With love, Maggie
Circles of caregiving pressure is a reflective coaching resource designed to help people separate what they can act on, what they may be able to influence, and what sits outside their direct control. This can reduce mental overload and support a clearer next step.
Circle of control
· My own basic needs
· Accepting “good enough”
· One boundary today
Circle of influence
· Sharing responsibilities
· Asking for practical help
· Planning respite
Circle of concerns
· Another person’s condition
· Service waiting times
· Family opinions
Coaching tips
· Begin with the smallest item inside the circle of control.
· Use the influence circle for requests, conversations and planning—not guarantees.
· Acknowledge concerns without spending all available energy trying to control them.
· Move an item between circles if new information changes what is possible.
· Return to basic needs and professional support when overwhelm remains high.
Reflection questions
What am I trying to control that is not mine to control? What is one action available to me today? Who or what could increase my influence safely?
Important note
This resource supports reflection and coaching. It does not mean difficult circumstances should simply be accepted, and it does not replace safeguarding, advocacy, medical care or crisis support where these are needed.
Until next time, give yourself space to breathe.
With love, Maggie
