When a Wave of Grief Hits
Grief does not arrive neatly or follow a straight path. I have written this gentle, stand-alone resource to explore simple ways to steady yourself without pushing grief away, helping you understand what may be happening emotionally and physically, and what might support you when grief feels close.
Try saying: 'This is a wave of grief. I do not have to fight it, and it will change.' Naming the experience can reduce the fear that something is wrong. If words are difficult, place a hand over your heart or hold something comforting as a physical reminder of safety. Notice five things you can see, four you can feel, three you can hear, two you can smell and one you can taste. Use only the senses that feel comfortable. Grounding is not meant to erase grief; it helps you stay alongside the feeling without being completely swept away. Loosen tight clothing, sit somewhere supported, sip water and slow your exhale. Postpone non-urgent decisions. If you are at work or in public, step outside, visit a quiet space or send a brief message saying you need a few minutes. Some waves need company and some need solitude. Ask yourself: do I need someone to listen, help me with something practical, distract me gently, or give me space? Clear requests make it easier for others to support you.
Inside, you will also find compassionate explanations, practical responses, reflection prompts and guidance about when extra support may help. There is no pressure to read it all at once or relate to every part. Take what supports you, pause when you need to, and come back when the time feels right.
Your grief does not need to look like anyone else's to be real.
Warmly, Maggie.
