Anger

Anger is a natural emotion that often appears when something feels unfair, unsafe, frustrating or beyond our control. It can show up in the body as heat, tight muscles, a racing heart, clenched hands or an urgent need to react. Some people express anger loudly, while others become quiet, withdrawn or tearful. Neither response makes someone “bad”; anger is information that deserves to be understood.

This resource helps people recognise anger before it becomes overwhelming and explore safer ways to communicate what is happening. It encourages a pause between the feeling and the response, making room for choice, boundaries and repair. The aim is not to remove anger, but to learn how to listen to it without causing harm to ourselves or others.

Coaching tips

·   Notice the earliest body signal, such as a tight jaw, warm face or faster breathing.

·   Pause the conversation if needed and agree to return when everyone feels calmer.

·   Use movement safely: walk, stretch, shake out your hands or push against a wall.

·   Try: “I feel angry because… What I need right now is…”

·   Afterwards, consider whether the anger was protecting a boundary, need or hurt.

Coaching reflection: What might your anger be trying to protect or help you communicate?

Until next time, give yourself space to breathe.

With love, Maggie

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